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Parallel Play: Together Without Doing the Same Thing

Chris explains parallel play—how two people can share a room, talk, and connect while doing different activities—and why parents do not need to mistake it for a lack of interaction.

  • Autistic identity / Acceptance, Communication, Social life
  • All audiences
  • 1:09
  • Free resource
  • Published August 25, 2026
Content note

General discussion of autistic social interaction and play; no diagnosis or private medical details.

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Today, I want to discuss a subject that I think is rather under-talked about in the autism community. That is this concept of parallel play, where I’m sure you’ve noticed your child, where they’ll have a friend over and they will play in the same room, but be doing two totally different things. But they’ll be in the same room and they’ll be talking to each other, but they’re not playing the same game. In my opinion, it’s normal because I do it all the time, even to this day when I have a friend over. Basically, it’s just—it’s not that we’re not interacting or we’re not having social contact. We really are. It’s just that we are kind of doing our own thing in the same room, socially together. We just—we don’t have to collaboratively do the same exact thing. I don’t really know how else to describe it, but you don’t need to be worried about it. It’s not that your child is not getting enough interaction, isn’t interacting with their friend. They really are. It’s just they’re doing their own thing in the same room and communicating with them and having social contact. They just don’t need to be doing the same thing at the same exact time.
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